@ElConnekto But you're still processing, clearly. You want to understand it and "be there" but each time you think you're there... you're not.
Instead of rationalizing, try crying in the shower. Nobody will know but you.
Just try it. See if that isn't a more effective alternative.
@ElConnekto 但很明显，您仍在处理中。你想理解它并“在那里”，但每次你认为你在那里……你不是。
与其合理化，不如尝试在淋浴时哭泣。除了你，没有人会知道。
去尝试一下。看看这是否不是更有效的选择。